Dallas’ Story



“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are, but I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”

This quote was by George Shaw who believed that your past life experiences don’t make you the person you are today.


I’ve been under the care of the Ministry since 2007. I came from a state of neglect and emotional abuse from my alcoholic mother. I came out of the situation emotionally unstable and angry. After coming into care, I was constantly moving. I estimate that in six years I lived in around 20 houses, including going to Cholmondeley home with my two younger sisters 4 times. My placements lasted no longer than a year because of my anger and my attachment to my family more specifically my mother.  


I’ve grown up in a variety of settings, this has given me the ability to adapt to different environments. When you move around a lot you learn to make new friends, you learn how to live with strangers, you learn to stand out when it’s needed, you learn to stick up for others in a similar situation. you learn to grow up very quick as maturity is brought upon us at a young age.


In 2012 I was placed with Steve and Kathy who I’ve been with ever since. To find a home with people who are supportive, kind and encourage me to be the best has meant that I can strive and achieve greater then what I had ever thought. It is not always perfect but it is home where I feel safe and happy. 


Steve and Kathy have been supporting me throughout my achievements. This varies from being a south Canterbury basketball rep, going to south island champs for swimming earlier this year, going on a three week Outward Bound course and being a leader within my school. Being a house leader at school and a swim instructor for the local club makes me happy that I can be a leader within a community setting. Having practice in different areas.